Coat of Arms NYC

on him....hmmm...

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I swear, I love guy clothing (even though i dont wear it)

Ask me why I cut my hair again....

I dare you....

Black women and their hair...Is there a rule in the bible that says it is strictly forbidden for a woman to cut her hair?

Hair is no more, no less than a style of the times. A fashion statement. You can cut it. You can grow it. You can stop using the creamy crack and go all natural with it if you want! (Im trying to go natural this summer. Lets see how that goes).

Hair is hair. Get funky with it. And dont give me a shocked or a sad face when you say "why did you cut your hair?!?" because unlike you, I am not afraid of a short, bold cut.

Peace. Love & Hair

What is the big deal?

He cheated.........and?

Why are we making this man do public apologies for his acts when men and women commit acts of adultery daily? Why has the media made him the face of adultery? In no way am I saying that his acts were by any means fine. I am simply saying that there are thousands of others out there who are doing the same thing, except they just have not been caught yet.

First Chris Brown, now Tiger Woods? I suggest all you other successful black men keep it tight. It only takes one wrong move.

All Black Models. Italian Issue of Vogue.

All Black models? Beautiful black female models ranging in all colors of the spectrum? Not just the typical "lightskin black girl with the good hair"? Well jinkies. This is something im very happy to see. About time.

well, my beautiful black sistas! You just better work!

For more photos click here ;)

PEACE SIGN. UP.

Lolita

And Today is a Beautiful Day

"Today, nobody cares
But tomorrow they will, they will
Today, nobody cares
But, oh, tomorrow they will, they will

They said my future was dark
You see me now?
Just look around
I’m beamin’

I get my energy from my inner G
I be in outer space, but I got inner peace
So tell my enemies that they can’t injure me
I know that irritates, you have my sympathies
Well, you should protest, yeah, you should picket me
I’m on a losing strike, I’m on a winning streak
I’m out in left field, I’m speaking mentally
But that’s a better places than where the benches be
I’m feelin’ really good, me and different beat
Me and my different drummer, he play the timpanis
See, that’s what got me here, you hearin’ me
Me on my black man in the future shit, call me Billy Dee
See, I’m just forward-looking, that’s how I really see
See, while you Valentimes, I’m thinking Christmas trees
And that’s how this would be, even at Mickey D’s
Semicolon, close parentheses

They said my future was dark
You see me now?
Just look around
I’m beamin’

They used to talk
When I wasn’t around
You see me now
I’m beamin’"-Lupe Fiasco

Peace sign UP.

xoxo,

Lolita

Saying "Thank You"

Two. Simple. Words.

yet....so hard for some people to say apparently. Especially at good ole' Hampton University.

Ive always been raised to be respectful to my elders and whomever did an act of kindness, being as nobody on this planet owes you anything.....

But anywho....

what irks the crap out of me is when you hold the door for a person, and they cannot find the decency to say "THANK YOU". Like, did you just forget those words? Have they been erased from your vocabulary?

Well yesterday was my last straw..which is exactly why a young woman had a door slam on her hip as she was trying to bring her stuff in.

Sorry.

I would just like to remind people in general, that it is ok to say "Please" and "thank you". It is never wrong to say those things. There is such a thing as common courtesy. Let us not get so wrapped up and involved in our own hype, that we think we are ever too good to say "Please" or "Thank you". Once again, remember, nobody owes u anything.

That is all,

Lolita

(P.S. I'm getting back on my blogging grind. Between midterms and crazy work...AND being removed from my laptop, Ive truly missed this)

A Salute to Love

So, as an ode to valentines day...I just thought I had to do this...You know, this stuff is just too cute..

Isn't it? Come on now...don't be a sour patch.

But, now, time to get a little serious....

Just remember, with Valentines day coming up, that the celebration of LOVE is something that should be celebrated year round and not just on one day. Get out and celebrate LOVE with friends and family if you can. Valentines Day is not the day to sit around and mope about how you currently may not have a significant other. Love exists in so many different ways. Therefore, be kind and express your Love to the people that help you through thick and thin.

Let a little LOVE in your heart folks

Peace and xoxo,

Lolita

It All Started with this Bright Blue Vest

I cant get enough of this....

Mirror, Mirror? Where art thou?

And my favee....

The "Big City Girl" Look.

I swear, when I see fashion..it just reminds me of my home...The good ole' city...New York.

xoxo,

Lolita

The Worst Rap Battle Ever

huh?

Rachel Lloyd "GEMS"

Who is Rachel Lloyd? This particular outstanding woman is somebody who I have been meaning to talk about. Without a doubt, she deserves to be more than mentioned on my blog. How did I find out about her? Well, one night I was flipping through the channels when I saw a young, fifteen year old girl flash on the screen saying in a very melancholy way "working the streets was something I felt I had to do. I felt there was no way out." My heart immediately went out to that girl, and I was compelled to watch more.....

Rachel Lloyd

Girls Educational Mentoring Services (GEMS) is a program that was founded in 1999 by Rachel Lloyd. Rachel, who was once a teenager that was sexually exploited, recognized the urgent need for educational services that were dedicated to young women at risk of being sexually exploited or who were already being exploited. GEMS has now grown into one of the largest organizations that provides services to commercially sexually exploited and domestically trafficked youth in the United States. GEMS educates and supports young women from the ages of twelve to twenty-one that have been caught in this cruel and vicious phenomena that lurks on the abandoned street corners and places that America turns a blind side to. While watching the documentary, several places were shown where prostitution was abundant. These places were areas that I knew of. Hunts Point (an area in the Bronx), Queens and Brooklyn. I noticed that a lot of the inner city areas seemed to be highly affected by this. But let me make this clear: sexual exploitation and human trafficking happens all throughout the United States and can be closer to your home than you may think...

And to think...here I am singing this song that has been planted into my brain "Its hard out here for a pimp...." and watching movies like Hustle n' Flow that in some ways praises pimps and prostitution, and here you are hit with the harsh reality of it. No Hollywood, no props, no script. This is an actual situation that can be handled and solved if everybody simply can take the initiative to realize that it exists. Girls are to be loved, empowered and cherished...not sold for their bodies.

I encourage everyone to visit the website: http://www.gems-girls.org/ganfs/home.html

Please, Please, Please keep yourself aware of the issues surrounding you, no matter how privileged you are.

xoxo,

Lolita

Today.....

During a disscussion on probability, one of my teachers made two statements (both of which I thought were two very outrageous statements). The first which was "I'm pure African-American" and the second which was "Its ashame, before you know it theres gonna be a whole bunch of mixed babies runnin around at the rate were going."

*cough*

Being a Political Science major and being quite fond of history...there are two important things I have learned. The first of which is that there is NO such thing as any person on this earth being "pure" (since that is what this particular teacher wanted to call it). The second which is that all throughout history, mankind and the governments that we have elected have continuously tried to label and categorize people: "Black", "white", "hispanic", "Native American" and uh oh "Other"...etc. Is it right? Not in the least. For centuries people of all different backgrounds and races have mixed, mingled and produced the beauty of which is the human race. I would love to see a day in which we stop classifying people and can stop checking boxes on our standardized exams that label us as a color.

One day...one day, maybe there will be a box that all of us can check that will be simply marked:

BROTHER or SISTER

And perhaps this was just one of those random rants that go through my mind daily.

xoxo,

Lolita

"Onto the Next One" Jay-Z Video

So Jay-Z brings to us one of his newest pieces of visual art from his latest album The Blueprint 3. After watching this video...I was just left blank. In fact, perhaps I was also a bit creeped out but oddly enough I LOVE it. Or maybe I shouldn't love it because I really cant understand what this man is trying to portray. I feel like Hov was trying to show a whole bunch of symbols. I have no clue. You see for yourself.

xoxo,

Lolita

U know that feeling?

when your heart is kind of fluttering? and for that moment in time....everything seems to be right in the world...and you just want to smile?

xoxo,

Lolita

"Shy Ronnie...Speak Up"

Because sometimes, you need a little laughter.

Rihanna had made her debut on SNL this past weekend, and heres the skit. Pretty funny.

Smiles,

Lolita

"I like a long hair, thick, redbone"

Readers, fellow bloggers, boys, girls, ladies and gentlemen....there was an issue that has been brought to my attention. To be quite frank, I have never felt this certain topic was still a serious issue in this day and age until I went to an HBC (Historical Black Community College). Apparently, this issue still plagues many black minds, an issue that I would like to call "slave mentality". This issue I am referring to is the idea of beauty within the black race. Repeatedly, I have heard, and read on sites like twitter ignorance such as "light skin is the best", "dark butts", "darkies", "whats better? light skin or dark skin?". Further more, you have hip-hop lyrics that promote an idea of beauty among black females that requires "light skin and long hair." WTF?!?! This video I encourage you readers to watch, although it is quite comical brings to your attention the issue that happened with hip hop artist Yung Berg in which he said "I dont like dark butts" and even developed a test for females. Although this event that happened with this artist may be old and outdated, the overall topic still lingers. So here I bring to you, the lovely B. Scott....

Beauty knows no color pigmentation. Im in love with brown skin, chocolate brown, honey brown, caramel brown...anything sweet! Because without a doubt black skin is sweet and beautiful. I believe that it is about time (nope , way past that time) that we have a major wake-up call when it comes to our perception of beauty. In this world and in this time, no longer can the black community still be haunted by the codes that slavery had implanted in our ancestors. This is the time to come together and embrace every color out there.

In black history during the time of segregation, do any of you recall a certain experiement that was done in which the NAACP requested a social psychologist by the name of Kenneth Clark to travel to Clarendon County in South Carolina and perform something called the "doll experiment"? This certain experiment was evaluating the psychological effects of segregation that young black children were being forced to face. Mr. Clark provided two dolls to each black student in the class. One was white and the other was black. What Mr. Clark discovered is that the students considered the white doll prettier and smarter than the black doll, indicating the feeling of racial inferiority. When Mr. Clark asked them to pick the doll most like themselves, "Many of the children became emotionally upset when they had to identify the doll they had rejected." Mr. Clark concluded that "segregation caused black children to reject themselves and their color and accept whites as desirable."

Now you guys tell me, is there any difference from then and now?

xoxo,

Lolita

"Show me ya teeth."

True. So very true. This past weekend, I came to a sad realization. It was one of those epihany's that occurs when you are in deep thought contemplating the many different aspects of your life. Specifically, the one about love. I suddenly realized, that maybe I have been making one of those mistakes that many of us do quite frequently, and that being confusing lust with love.

Sincerely,

Lolita

Belonging...

"I knew I belonged to the public and to the world, not because I was talented or even beautiful, but because I had never belonged to anything or anyone else."-Marilyn Monroe

Confused Conformists....

You turn on your television. There sits a person who supposedly carries much "clout" and words of "wisdom" which they believe are of importance to each and every single one of our lives. They speak of their ideas on marriage, sex, love, life...and every spectrum of the human life. Sometimes (rarely) you have some people that are actually influential, and other times (most of the time) you have these anal conformists that make you wonder: How the hell do they survive in such a progressive world that we live in today? Others just make you wonder: why do some people actually open their mouths in important discussions? Now...lets take a look at these two specific people that have particularly irked me...

Sarah Palin on the Oprah show

Without a doubt, not many people were head-over-heels for Mrs.Palin and McCain's crew during the 2008 campaign. But if you didn't like Palin during the 2008 campaign, her message for Oprah's audience and the millions of viewers sitting behind television screens were: "It was really the McCain campaign PR staff that you didn't like. The real Sarah, you would like just fine!" During this Oprah show, she spent most of her time blaming her campaign staffers who she says "cosseted her, handled her, and micromanaged her and her family as to what to say, who to talk to , what to wear and even what to eat." Lady puuuuhleeeezzz. Have you no backbone? Based on these statements she has made, I am so very pleased to know that the worst mistake ever in history to be committed was not done, and that is the electing of McCain into office with Palin as vice president. TO ALL THE FEMINISTS OUT THERE...would you be okay with having a vice president that would adhere to whatever an administration was telling her to do? A woman that would let her family be controlled and handled? A woman that would act as a puppet? A woman, yet again with no backbone?

Onto annoyance #2....

Carrie Prejean

This new young, blonde conformist which is now known as the "golden girl" of conservatism, rose into christian stardom after she denounced gay marriage due to her religious upbringing during the Miss USA contest in April. After not winning and receiving her tiara, she claimed it was because of her religious values and ideas on gay marriage. In september when speaking at the Value Voters Summit, she told a conservative audience that she was "chosen by God to oppose gay marriage." She then said "Im so proud of the answer I gave. God chose me for that moment." This young lady then took up a lawsuit against the pageant for under the belief that she did not win because of her beliefs. Prejean then drops her lawsuit after nude sex tapes and pornographic pictures were found of her.

Excuse me? Did little Miss conservative make a boo boo?

First and foremost, I would like to say that anybody who believes that another person's rights should be taken away from them because of sexual preference, religious beliefs...etc is downright outrageous and despicable. Secondly, if you want to stand strong to a certain belief (no matter how bogus it may be as in Prejean's belief) then do not be a hypocrite. If you believe in what Ms. Prejean stands for, then you should not be parading around with nude sex tapes either. Ms. Prejean recently made an even bigger fool of herself on Larry King Live when she refused to answer the question of a gay supporter of the USA pageants. Check out the clip:

Now what do you think?

And thats all folks,

xoxo,

Lolita

Smile

Because it makes no sense not to.......

(by the way, I will be updating soon. maybe even tonight. I have alot on my mind)

Peace and xoxo,

Lolita

Lady Gaga Presents The Fame: Monster

I personally am excited to see some new stuff from this crazy, absurd, creative and talented lady. Lady Gaga will release The Fame Monster in the United States on November 23rd. There will be eight fresh new tracks from producers such as Rodney Jerkins and RedOne who produced the lead single "Bad Romance." So why call it Monster? While in an interview with MTV, Lady GaGa explains":

"While traveling the world for two years, I've encountered several monsters, each represented by a different song on the new record: my 'Fear of Sex Monster', my 'Fear of Alcohol Monster', my 'Fear of Love Monster', my 'Fear of Death Monster', my 'Fear of Loneliness Monster'...etc.."

hmmmmmm....interesting. I guess you can say we have all had those fears at some point.

Touche Gaga...

xoxo,

Lolita

Have you ever....

Ever wondered what it would be like if the enslavement of Africans had never happened? Would the world, just based off of human nature still be the same? Would Africa be more united? Ever wondered why insecurities exist? Ever wondered why, when you look in some people's eyes, you see nothingness? Have you ever wondered what life would be like if we all never died? Do you really want to live forever? Ever wondered why people are so afraid of death? Ever wondered if society just created and emphasized on religion for fear of death (or the unknown)? Ever wondered if love was something fictitious? Have you ever prayed for someone other than yourself so strong, that you cried? Have you ever wondered why we have emotions? Ever payed attention to the birds in the sky? Or the trees when the wind was blowing? Ever wondered what the world would be like if the sun was always shining? Ever wondered what it would be like if there was always darkness? Ever wondered what life would be like if gravity didn't exist? Ever wondered why when you were in "love" it felt like gravity didn't exist? Have you ever felt so high on life? Ever felt like there was a deeper meaning to this thing called "life"? Ever felt like society constantly lied to you in every way and form?

Have you ever?

XOXO,

Lolita